After the long way to freedom,I have been evaluating my life and identified an area that needs maturity. The area of relationship. This is an area that has been a great challege from my childhood. I grew up in a pastor's family, where relationships with the opposite sex, were termed as wickedness. With this perspective being a major player in my habits, I hated wickedness with the whole of my heart. Any day my mind would think of a lady, I would kneel before God and curse my wicked mind. This was not to be so for long. The situation changed when I joined high school and met very able peers who expressed their emotions freely. I termed this as wickedness at first but soon realized that these guys were actually enjoying themselves. In my four years I had become a celebrity in breaking the heart of ladies. I would date a lady, then after going to bed with her,that would be the end of our affair. This habit become my character as I dated many ladies. After leaving high school,I joined college where freedom was guaranteed, I now had numberless affairs that lasted as long as we had not gone to bed. While this continued, I never knew that I was carving my destiny which was obviously not very good. Having left college and already making money, I decided to change for the best by giving my hand in marriage to a virgin girl. This to me would have tamed the wild Kiago. This conditioning worked for 1 year after our wedding. The worst happened when the monister resurfaced from its deserted pit. This time it was double what it used to be. Concurrent relationships made my day. I could not help sleeping out of my matrimonial home. My wife could not believe what I had amounted to. I never went to church, I drank wine in pubs and spent in lodges. My spiritual life was really affected. I could not help but venture into new relationships every dsy. I now want and desire change in my relationships. In the other areas, God has blessed me but in relationships, I need help.
With this mess, I have decided to write a book with the title: "Touching the heavenlies". The masterpiece will reveal all my romantic experiences and the lessons that can be picked from them.
I am still yours faithfully
Kiago
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Harness the Power of Your Associations
Jim Rohn says you become an average of the five people you associate with most. The people we spend our time with determine what conversations dominate our attention, and what observations, attitudes and opinions we repetitively are introduced to.
Spend your time with a team of high-achievers and you’ll be inspired to stretch for your next accomplishment, be it in your business, finances or personal agenda. On the converse, hang out with people who are “less than inspired” and you could quickly find yourself stagnant.
Evaluate and shift your associations into 3 categories:
1. Disassociation
There are some people you might need to break away from completely—these are negative, toxic people who infect you with their bad attitude. It’s difficult to ignore someone and their negative influences but doing so will put YOU in control of deciding the quality of life you want to have. Then surround yourself with the people who represent and support that vision.
2. Limited Associations
There are some people who you can spend three hours with, but not three days. Others you can spend three minutes with, but not three hours. Decide how much you can “afford” to be influenced, based on how those people represent themselves.
3. Expanded Associations
Whatever area of your life you want to see improvement in, find someone who represents the success you want, the parenting skills you want, the relationship you want, the lifestyle you want, and spend more time with those people. Join organizations, clubs, businesses and health clubs where these people are and make friends.
Decide who of your friends are the best influences and make more time for them; it’s an investment of time that will prove profitable.
Spend your time with a team of high-achievers and you’ll be inspired to stretch for your next accomplishment, be it in your business, finances or personal agenda. On the converse, hang out with people who are “less than inspired” and you could quickly find yourself stagnant.
Evaluate and shift your associations into 3 categories:
1. Disassociation
There are some people you might need to break away from completely—these are negative, toxic people who infect you with their bad attitude. It’s difficult to ignore someone and their negative influences but doing so will put YOU in control of deciding the quality of life you want to have. Then surround yourself with the people who represent and support that vision.
2. Limited Associations
There are some people who you can spend three hours with, but not three days. Others you can spend three minutes with, but not three hours. Decide how much you can “afford” to be influenced, based on how those people represent themselves.
3. Expanded Associations
Whatever area of your life you want to see improvement in, find someone who represents the success you want, the parenting skills you want, the relationship you want, the lifestyle you want, and spend more time with those people. Join organizations, clubs, businesses and health clubs where these people are and make friends.
Decide who of your friends are the best influences and make more time for them; it’s an investment of time that will prove profitable.
Thursday, September 9, 2010
LONG WALK TO FREEDOM
'Freedom is coming tomorrow' is a song that was done in South Africa as its citizen fought tirelesslly from the captivity of their colonial masters. Iam in my office today and thinking about my financial freedom. Your and My freedom are pegged on our daily efforts to be better than we were yesterday. The secret I have on this long walk is forever moving forward amidst obstacles. Have you ever desired something and realized that at first it looked very impossible, then when you achieved it become like play? then keep on desiring big things and you will forever get big results.
My experince this year has been very outstanding. I desired to venture into transport as from June this year, this happened in August when i acquired my first bus. I have come to the conclusion that "You get what you desire"
I Desire financial freedom before I turn forty. This is my financial desire and will pursue it with all have. What do you desire badly and cannot live without it?
I wish you a blessed evening.
My experince this year has been very outstanding. I desired to venture into transport as from June this year, this happened in August when i acquired my first bus. I have come to the conclusion that "You get what you desire"
I Desire financial freedom before I turn forty. This is my financial desire and will pursue it with all have. What do you desire badly and cannot live without it?
I wish you a blessed evening.
Monday, January 18, 2010
The Miracle Of Personal Development
Adopted from Jim Rohn
"If you want to be wealthy and happy, learn this lesson well: Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job.”
I’ve been working on my own personal development. And I must admit that this has been the most challenging assignment of all. This business of personal development lasts a lifetime.
You see, what you become is far more important than what you get. The important question to ask on the job is not, “What am I getting?” Instead, you should ask, “What am I becoming?” Getting and becoming are like Siamese twins: What you become directly influences what you get. Think of it this way: Most of what you have today you have attracted by becoming the person you are today.
I’ve also found that income rarely exceeds personal development. Sometimes income takes a lucky jump, but unless you learn to handle the responsibilities that come with it, it will usually shrink back to the amount you can handle.
If someone hands you a million dollars, you’d better hurry up and become a millionaire. A very rich man once said, “If you took all the money in the world and divided it equally among everybody, it would soon be back in the same pockets it was before.”
It is hard to keep that which has not been obtained through personal development.
So here’s the great axiom of life:
To have more than you’ve got, become more than you are.
This is where you should focus most of your attention. Otherwise, you just might have to contend with the axiom of not changing, which is:
Unless you change how you are, you’ll always have what you’ve got.
"If you want to be wealthy and happy, learn this lesson well: Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job.”
I’ve been working on my own personal development. And I must admit that this has been the most challenging assignment of all. This business of personal development lasts a lifetime.
You see, what you become is far more important than what you get. The important question to ask on the job is not, “What am I getting?” Instead, you should ask, “What am I becoming?” Getting and becoming are like Siamese twins: What you become directly influences what you get. Think of it this way: Most of what you have today you have attracted by becoming the person you are today.
I’ve also found that income rarely exceeds personal development. Sometimes income takes a lucky jump, but unless you learn to handle the responsibilities that come with it, it will usually shrink back to the amount you can handle.
If someone hands you a million dollars, you’d better hurry up and become a millionaire. A very rich man once said, “If you took all the money in the world and divided it equally among everybody, it would soon be back in the same pockets it was before.”
It is hard to keep that which has not been obtained through personal development.
So here’s the great axiom of life:
To have more than you’ve got, become more than you are.
This is where you should focus most of your attention. Otherwise, you just might have to contend with the axiom of not changing, which is:
Unless you change how you are, you’ll always have what you’ve got.
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
2010
sori for not writing for a long time. try this stuff!
Action vs. Self-Delusion by Jim Rohn
Knowledge fueled by emotion equals action. Action is the ingredient that ensures results. Only action can cause reaction. Further, only positive action can cause positive reaction.
Action. The whole world loves to watch those who make things happen, and it rewards them for causing waves of productive enterprise.
I stress this because today I see many people who are really sold on affirmations. And yet there is a famous saying that “faith without action serves no useful purpose.” How true!
I have nothing against affirmations as a tool to create action. Repeated to reinforce a disciplined plan, affirmations can help create wonderful results.
But there is also a very thin line between faith and folly. You see, affirmations without action can be the beginnings of self-delusion. And for your well-being, there is little worse than self-delusion.
The man who dreams of wealth, and yet walks daily toward certain financial disaster, and the woman who wishes for happiness, and yet thinks thoughts and commits acts that lead her toward certain despair, are both victims of the false hope that affirmations without action can manufacture. Why? Because words soothe and, like a narcotic, they lull us into a state of complacency. Remember this: To make progress, you must actually get started!
The key is to take a step today. Whatever the project, start today. Start clearing out a drawer of your newly organized desk—today. Start setting your first goal—today. Start listening to motivational programs—today. Start a sensible weight-reduction plan—today. Start calling on one tough customer a day—today. Start putting money in your new “investment for fortune” account—today. Write a long-overdue letter—today. Anyone can! Even an uninspired person can start reading inspiring books.
Get some momentum going on your new commitment for the good life. See how many activities you can pile on your new commitment to the better life. Go all out! Break away from the downward pull of gravity. Start your thrusters going. Prove to yourself that the waiting is over and the hoping is past, that faith and action have now taken charge.
It’s a new day, a new beginning for your new life. With discipline, you will be amazed at how much progress you’ll be able to make. What have you got to lose except the guilt and fear of the past?
Now, I offer you this challenge: See how many things you can start and continue in this, the first day of your new beginning.
Action vs. Self-Delusion by Jim Rohn
Knowledge fueled by emotion equals action. Action is the ingredient that ensures results. Only action can cause reaction. Further, only positive action can cause positive reaction.
Action. The whole world loves to watch those who make things happen, and it rewards them for causing waves of productive enterprise.
I stress this because today I see many people who are really sold on affirmations. And yet there is a famous saying that “faith without action serves no useful purpose.” How true!
I have nothing against affirmations as a tool to create action. Repeated to reinforce a disciplined plan, affirmations can help create wonderful results.
But there is also a very thin line between faith and folly. You see, affirmations without action can be the beginnings of self-delusion. And for your well-being, there is little worse than self-delusion.
The man who dreams of wealth, and yet walks daily toward certain financial disaster, and the woman who wishes for happiness, and yet thinks thoughts and commits acts that lead her toward certain despair, are both victims of the false hope that affirmations without action can manufacture. Why? Because words soothe and, like a narcotic, they lull us into a state of complacency. Remember this: To make progress, you must actually get started!
The key is to take a step today. Whatever the project, start today. Start clearing out a drawer of your newly organized desk—today. Start setting your first goal—today. Start listening to motivational programs—today. Start a sensible weight-reduction plan—today. Start calling on one tough customer a day—today. Start putting money in your new “investment for fortune” account—today. Write a long-overdue letter—today. Anyone can! Even an uninspired person can start reading inspiring books.
Get some momentum going on your new commitment for the good life. See how many activities you can pile on your new commitment to the better life. Go all out! Break away from the downward pull of gravity. Start your thrusters going. Prove to yourself that the waiting is over and the hoping is past, that faith and action have now taken charge.
It’s a new day, a new beginning for your new life. With discipline, you will be amazed at how much progress you’ll be able to make. What have you got to lose except the guilt and fear of the past?
Now, I offer you this challenge: See how many things you can start and continue in this, the first day of your new beginning.
Monday, December 14, 2009
MY RESOLUTIONS
"The discipline of writing something down is the
first step toward making it happen."
~ Lee Iacocca
The practice of writing down your goals, dreams,
intentions and affirmations can benefit you greatly
as you use the Law of Attraction to create an abundant
life.
One of the reasons why writing them down works
so well is because your thoughts move at such a fast
pace that it's hard to concentrate on any one thing
for more than a few seconds before your mind is zipping
off to the next thought. When you write something
down, you must focus on it for a little bit longer
which helps you tune into the essence of it, so to
speak.
To harness this power, try writing down all of the
details of the things you want to create in your life.
Spend a few minutes on it each day. You can write out
your affirmations, keep a gratitude journal, or simply
detail your goals and dreams.
As Mr. Iacocca suggests,
discipline is necessary. You can't do the exercise just
once and expect results from it. Instead, work on it
regularly and notice how your dreams eventually seem
much clearer and stronger.
Affirmation:
Writing my thoughts down gives them power.
Merry Xmas and A Prosperous New Year 2010
first step toward making it happen."
~ Lee Iacocca
The practice of writing down your goals, dreams,
intentions and affirmations can benefit you greatly
as you use the Law of Attraction to create an abundant
life.
One of the reasons why writing them down works
so well is because your thoughts move at such a fast
pace that it's hard to concentrate on any one thing
for more than a few seconds before your mind is zipping
off to the next thought. When you write something
down, you must focus on it for a little bit longer
which helps you tune into the essence of it, so to
speak.
To harness this power, try writing down all of the
details of the things you want to create in your life.
Spend a few minutes on it each day. You can write out
your affirmations, keep a gratitude journal, or simply
detail your goals and dreams.
As Mr. Iacocca suggests,
discipline is necessary. You can't do the exercise just
once and expect results from it. Instead, work on it
regularly and notice how your dreams eventually seem
much clearer and stronger.
Affirmation:
Writing my thoughts down gives them power.
Merry Xmas and A Prosperous New Year 2010
Sunday, December 6, 2009
MEMORIES ARE MADE OF
I have spent many days meditating on my life on earth. I keep on asking myself what I long to see done in this world. Though this query is ambiguous, as once said by Abraham Lincoln, "Before you ask what the world can do for you, ask yourself what you can do for the world," I still ask myself the same question. What do I want to see before I expire? Some years to come I will be chasing investments upon investments, but this not withstanding, there is a reason why I was created by God. Many of us forget that we are here for a reason. I don't want to forget why I was born. They say If you want to predict your future, study your past and present. History has a way of repeating itself. Study your past successes and your present accomplishment and for sure you will not evade to understand why you born.
Be blessed
Be blessed
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