I am moved by the many many relationships dwindling currently having not survived long after their inception. The Bible says it well; "My people have gone into captivity because of lack of Knowledge" This is a true verdict. If I knew of the 29 nuggets, I would have never made some of the serious mistakes that I have made in life. Whatever the case, I can only improve where appropriate. I am going to write the 29 nuggets to be a blessing to anyone who has not had time to peruse relationships' journals and savor their priceless wisdom. I promise you that after reading the 29 nuggets you cannot evade making informed decisions relationally. Please join me on the 29 days flight to a destination of rest, and relationship bliss.
The nuggets are adopted from a book written by Dr. Neil Clark Warren entitled, "falling in love for right reasons- How to find your soul mate"
We will break the 29 nuggets into 4 classes
1. Screening Dimensions- designed to help you avoid troublemakers and to prevent becoming romantically involved with a problematic person.
2. Core personal Dimensions- these are characteristics in you and your partner that are relatively difficult to alter
3. Necessary skills that can be developed
4. Crucial qualities that can be developed
Lets get started! your soul mate is Waiting!
Day 1 (11th July 2011)
THE SCREENING DIMENSIONS
Consist of 7 nuggets
NUGGET 1 Good Character
- No marriage thrives if one of the partners has bad character. Character means: Integrity , Honesty and Moral uprightness.
- If one of the partners in the relationship lies, cheats, or steals, that bad character will eventually undermine the relationship.
- If you or your partner lies, for instance, the first thing to go in your relationship is TRUST.
- People who willfully and regularly lie, exaggerate, or cheat, have no regard for the rights of others. DON'T BE NAIVE, if he lies to someone else, she/ he will eventually lie to you.
- A person with a character disorder is often a smooth talker, a charmer, a person who knows how to say just the right thing to get what he or she wants. They are takers rather than givers.
- Observe carefully how your partner treats waiters and waitresses at a restaurant. If he or she is short, irrational or disrespectful of someone in a serving capacity, you can be quite sure that the same attitude will one day be aimed at you should you proceed with the relationship.
N/B: Good Character is one of the primary keys to a great relationship!!!!!
See you tomorrow as we walk down the nugget number 2
