NUGGET 13: APPRECIATING HUMOR: 23rd July 2011
- A good sense of humor shows up on virtually every "mate shopping list" In fact, a mutual ability to laugh is always in the top five on everybody's lists. "Smile; it will increase your face-value"
- Humor contributes a wealth of highly therapiutic elements to a mariage.
- The old saying "laughter is good medicine" is really true, especially when a marriage is going through tough times, a period of stress, calamity, or struggle.
- Marriages in which there is little laughter tend to do worse during the good times and much worse during the bad times.
- You don't need to be able to generate humor to have a good marriage. Nor is it important that you have the same ability to be witty as your partner. You just need to be able to appreciate humor.
- Who would like to live with a stone-faced person who doesn't acknowledge anything funny?
- When you and your partner laugh at the same things, it may indicate that you have similar values: it may reflect that you have similar intelligence and the same ability to take in and process information.
- If one person gets humor in a joke but the other doesn't, be careful. If a person has a tendency to not get a joke, what does that say about his/her outlook on life, educational background, family background, or overall general attitude?
- If your partner is constantly laughing at his or her own jokes, it may reflect problems in the areas of self-conception, nervousness and discomfort within herself or himself.
- Certainly, what we laugh t says something about a person's character. If your partner's or your own humor centers around meanness, or other people's misfortune, mistakes, or inabilities, watch out. If someone has a sense of humor that is riddled with sarcasm, sprinkled with cutting remarks that can verbally chop a person off at the knees in one swipe, be very careful. While that humor may be extremely funny before you are married, after you are married can be sure that same sarcasm will be aimed at you, and it won't feel so funny.
- Listen carefully to what you laugh about in your relationship.
- Humor that is about somebody else pain will ultimately bring a relationship into a less healthy place.
I remain blessed
Kiago
