NUGGET 12: THE LOOKS-22nd July 2011
If there is any dimension in which most people feel competent to select their potential marriage partners,it is the area of appearance.
- Ask most men or women what type of look they like in the opposite sex,and few will have difficulty in telling you.
- Everyone wants to be matched with someone who is attractive, but how attractive? What level of attractiveness is reasonable for you to desire in a potential partner?
- If you are average-looking person, who aspires to marry someone who looks as though they just stepped out of s fashion magazine, you will probably be disappointed.
- Super-attractive people usually marry super-attractive people. We "Commoners", do better with fellow commoners.
- Most men and women are much more comfortable being matched with someone in a range of attractiveness similar to their own.
- Men usually rate themselves abit higher than an objective group of their peers might rate them; women,however,tend to rate themselves lower on an appearance scale.Even fashion models have a diminished view of their own appearance.
- In searching for a mate, you should migrate toward people who appreciate your type of appearance, the same features that other people may not appreciate as much. If you come from a family where the valued standard of beauty is dark hair and skin, you are more likely to find acceptance in groups that looks alot like your relatives. They might rat you higher on appearance simply because they value that particular look.
- Once you are hooked on your partner's appearance, you are tempted to overlook important deficiencies and sometimes glaring inconsistencies in his or her life.
- Appearance tends to become less important in a relationship as the years pass.But character issues and traits such as kindness and compassion will still be important, and will usually go up in value over the years.
- Beyond that, we all are in a losing battle with age. The secret to contentment is to be happy with your body at whatever age you happen to be. Do the best you can to care for your appearance,but if you concentrate on the inner person,you will be more likely to find your soul mate.
- What is more beautiful than two elderly grandparents whose skin may be abit wrinkled,but the sparkle in their eyes for each other is undiminished?
Regards,
Kiago
