NUGGET 5: OBSTREPEROUSNESS 15th July 2011.
This term seems complicated, I had to visit a medical journal to find its meaning only to realize that it is a word that has a very simple meaning.
- Obstreperousness is a word used to describe a person who is Harsh,Critical, Unappreciative, Difficult to Please, and Never satisfied. You don't want to be married to an obstreperous person, no matter how much money he or she has or how great a lover he/she may be.
- These kinds of persons will drain you of every ounce of energy you have and will make life a living hell.
- The colloquial meaning for obstreperousness is similar to that of someone feeling extremely uncomfortable within himself. She is miserable and no matter what you do, or how hard you try you cannot make him happy.
- These kinds of persons are quick to find fault(usually in somebody else) and quick to attribute blame and try to instill guilt. He/she is obsessed with proving the other person wrong and himself right. He/she is negative in her basic attitudes attitude towards life. e. g. you look at a beautiful sunrise and say, "What a gorgeous day!". The obstreperous person looks at the same scene and says, "Yes, but its raining...somewhere!"
- we all know people who are negative, dour, and sour, filled with self-pity or dragging around a victim's mentality, and basically not whole lot of fun to be around.
- Most of these people are quite skilled in subtle trickery when it comes to masking their inner selves in the early stages of personal relationships. They can be quite cooperative and friendly, but don't be fooled.
- They don't know where they want to go in life or what they want. If you get very close to them or get more involved with them, the more you realize it is impossible to please such a person.
- These personalities are called borderline disorders. They are torn between 2 points. They rarely make decisions and when they make one they change it within a short time.
- They are in so much personal pain and are so vengeful, they will go after you with everything they can, they will aim for the jugular.
- For further information on this subject read this masterpiece called: "I hate you-Don't leave me" by Jerold J. Kreisman and Hal Straus (New york;Avon Books, 1991)
This book sums up the dilemma you will find yourself trapped if you continue a relationship with an obstreperous person.
- Don't TRY TO FIX SUCH A PERSON ,AVOID HIM, UNTIL HE/SHE WILLING TO ADMITS THE PROBLEM AND TAKES A STEP TO RECEIVE HELP IN DEALING WITH IT.
We meet tomorrow to understand about families
I remain Blessed
Kiago
